"Your home should be a sanctuary, the space where you can escape the stresses of everyday life and feel happy, relaxed, and at peace. But if negative energy is lingering from recent arguments, illness, or even a recent breakup, your home can become toxic and dysfunctional and can impact every aspect of your life.
Space clearing is a technique for clearing energy to harmonize and balance your home. Whether you’re looking to cleanse your new home in Boise, ID, or have been living in your Orlando, FL condo for years but are feeling uninspired and drained, now is a good time to get rid of negative energy using space clearing techniques.
So what’s the proper space clearing technique? The truth is, there’s no tried and true method for space clearing. From sound healing and crystals to smudging and other daily practices, Julia Weaver from RedFin asked experts to share what space clearing techniques are their go-to’s."
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Apply Reiki energy to your spaceDid you know that negative or harmful energy can seep into our spaces all the time? If you had a recent break up in a long-time relationship, were fired from a job, or are sick, these situations can cause us to move into heavy emotions like depression, sadness, anxiety, or stress. So, whatever the reason for it entering, regularly clearing negative energy from your space can restore balance and harmony. With a Reiki Energy Healing session for a house and land, the non-beneficial energies can be transmuted to positive earth templates or beneficial energies very quickly. Many times, when clients have homes, they want to sell yet they aren’t selling, we do a Reiki Clearing. Usually, within weeks, the homes sell. – Inspiring You
PROTECTING & CLEARING MANUAl
Okay, let's talk about clearing, energy clearing that is. If you are an Empath or highly sensitive person then learning how to clear and protect yourself is really important.
There are many circumstances when an energy clearing might be useful or necessary. Every item, person, location and situation has the potential for a healthy, well-protected aura (energy field that surrounds/emits from a person, object etc.) but a clearing becomes necessary when that energy field is compromised.
There are different non-beneficial energies that can disrupt the energetic balance:
2. Taking on/absorbing negative energy from the environment
5. Negative emotions and self-inflicted blockages
Items that may need clearing:
2. People, animals
3. Home, office, land, plants etc
4. Objects (books, art pieces, furniture), crystals, rocks etc.
The first step in clearing is to determine what it is you are dealing with. Become the story investigator in your life by being curious as to what is "really" happening. First start off by observing or noticing how you are feeling or how the energy in the space feels. Then establish a diagnosis. For example, if the space feels heavy, dense or stuffy then this could be a sign that the space could use a clearing. The more you tune into the energy within you and around you, the more you can build up your accuracy and ability to diagnose. The more you can accurately understand what is there, then the better you will be equipped to map out a proper strategy for a clearing. Sometimes, clearings are multi-layered.
Side Note: If you are unable to work this first step, I suggest sending out a heartfelt prayer for help and/or getting professional help! I will give you a couple examples of how to clear things, but by no means is it meant to represent a full set of tools that might be necessary in situations you encounter. Sometimes, Reiki or a Dowsing Energy Healing is what a person or space, etc may need to fully be cleared.
Before you get started with any clearing, make sure you are properly protected.
STEP 1 - PROTECTION INTENTION/AFFIRMATIVE PRAYER:
I ask the Divine Realm/God/Spirit/Source/Universe who is here for my highest good to put a strong white light barrier or white bubble around me so no negativity can come in. I thank you in advance.
Another Protection Intention/Affirmative Prayer Option:
Depending on your beliefs; I am surrounded by the White Light of the Christ, through which nothing negative can penetrate. I thank you in advance.
STEP 2 - CLEARING & HEALING PRAYER: You will ask Divine Spirit/God plus any personal guides/angels/masters/saints that you are working with who is here for your highest good for the following:
(Make it a heartfelt prayer and be as clear as you can be within your request)
"I ask Divine/God/Spirit/Source/Angels/Divine Realm who is here for my highest good to please clear/heal myself/this space/my friend/this situation/relationship from any and all trauma and negative energy in all time and all space with anything that it has caused and created negative energy and send back any negative energies to their proper place in the Universe purified, healed and transformed in a white light bubble in all time and space and please return all truthful soul energies to me from in all time and all space healed, transformed, purified and reintegrate them. I ask Divine/God/Spirit/Angels/Divine Realm to strengthen my strong white light barrier around me. Thank you!"
This is a good way of asking for a clearing. A simple clearing is easily accomplished this way. Always make sure to connect into gratitude after you say a prayer or an intention!
WHY A CLEARING MAY NOT STICK:
Some circumstances however are a bit trickier because the clearing is multi-layered.
Let's say you want to help to clear a friend who has been surrounded by negative energies and feels depressed. You are using all the tools you have and nothing happens. Why might that be?
Well, let's say for example your friend has a deep-seated guilt issue and he/she feels the need for punishment, that guilt has the power to override any clearing attempt you make.
If this is the case, the guilt needs to be cleared first and your friend will have to do some self-forgiveness work (self-forgiveness mirror work meditation can be handy for this) before any clearing attempt on your part would be successful.
Another reason, can be that a person might not be open to a clearing especially if the item/energy to be cleared gives them power/comfort or is used to solicit negative attention.
Use discernment! If it is self you are dealing with, have the courage to be honest with yourself. Acknowledge how you feel, connect into the emotional frequencies of love, being brave and vulnerability then take a moment to see or embrace the "real" truth of what you are moving through. Ask yourself if there are any lessons to be learned before the non-beneficial energies can be released. Whatever the answer is, be kind to self and gentle as you move through each step.
If you are working with someone else, maybe you have to let go of the attempt to clear him or her for the time being and respect his or her free will. Lean into not taking it personally because at this point this is what this person is choosing as an experience. Make sure to up to your protection so everything else can deflect off of you and you stay in your alignment and space of love and compassion.
And as always, have fun while doing this, you can learn a lot about yourself and the world from the comfort of your own home, simply by paying attention and rethinking/examining your choices. May God bless all of you on this journey!
Much Gratitude, Sending Reiki to all of you, Light & Love,
Reiki Boosting Our Dreams
Do you know that our minds are in constant communication with the Universe? Do you know that we are “sending” out our thoughts, our beliefs, our vibrations, and they are returned to us in the form of physical matter? Do you know that we attract people, places, material possessions and our experiences with them based on what we think, feel and believe – all of which are emitted through our chakras?
A chakra (pronounced “cha”-“kra” with a resounding “ch”) is a center of energy. Originating from Sanskrit, it literally means “wheel” by association with its function as a vortex of spinning energy interacting with various physiological and neurological systems in the body. Blocked energy in our chakras can often lead to illness, so it's important to understand what each chakra represents and what we can do to keep this energy flowing freely.
Reiki is a form of energy healing that originated in Japan. It was discovered by a Buddhist monk named Mikao Usui, who learned to feel and channel the universal life energy that flows through every being. Every person can learn to use this energy for healing by going through a Reiki initiation in which a master awakens the student to Reiki energy. Since Reiki was first discovered, it has always used the concept of energy centers that allow life energy, known as Ki, to move through the body.
The major and minor chakras make up part of the energetic system often referred to as the subtle body along with Kundalini energy that, once awakened, flows through them and activates them. The primary focus in energy healing is on the seven major chakras, which run up the center of the torso and head and are the main focal points for the meridians, or energy lines, that run through the body. The minor chakras are smaller focal points where meridians cross. Essentially, they are points that regulate energy flow. If they are blocked or unhealthy, energy cannot flow freely and illness and discomfort result.
It is through the delicate art of Reiki that anything in our lives can be healed, if we want it to be. Healing can not occur when we deny the existence of pain. Reiki helps to calm the mind; it heals our subconscious, the deepest part of who we are. This is where the source of our problems originate from, our core beliefs about ourselves and others. This is where we store all of our memories, good and bad. The problem is that many of us do not have direct access to our subconscious mind and are unaware of what lies within it. It is this mind that is truly running the show, working with our conscious mind.
It is both our conscious and unconscious thoughts, beliefs and emotions that alter the balance of each chakra. This is why it is important that we heal our thought process, because this is where it all really begins. A thought can lead to an emotion and when we get stuck in that emotion or repress that emotion, or when we make it ours, it can become an block or becomes a belief.
When we actively work to heal our limiting beliefs, we begin to see a clearer picture of our reality. It is from this perspective that we will experience mental, emotional, physical and spiritual healing, bringing into our reality whatever it is we desire. This is where the power of Reiki can help us. By clearing up our chakras and intensifying the vibrations we send out, we are able to see the physical results more quickly! Reiki is synonymous with the Higher Intelligence or All-Knowing force that give us our life, and therefore can assist us in healing our life. Restoring the power of your chakras is about how you can take back control of your health and wellness by learning to work with energy. We all have the healing ability within us to connect!
Below you will find two exercises, the first are affirmations that were specifically created with your chakras in mind, and the second to help give energy towards putting your dreams into action!
Now for the second step: Find a piece of paper, any will do. Write down your intentions, that is, what it is you wish to have happen. It can be anything; From healing others, to manifesting your dreams! Anything is possible when you let go of limitations.
Fold up the piece of paper, and place it between your hands. Imagine a bright light coming down through the top of your head, down your forehead, into your throat, your heart, and stomach, going all the way to the tip of your tail bone, or root chakra. Allow this light to connect you to the Earth and imagine it coming out of your hands, see it going towards your goal – feel it, imagine yourself there. See how excited you are to be in your dream. Feel what it would feel like, because through the act of imagination, you are there! (Just not physically)Allow this energy to flow for as long as you feel necessary. When you are done, tear up the piece of paper (let it go) and trust that the Universe has received your message, and will respond in due time.
By giving Reiki to our goals, we are “boosting” our vibration out into the Universe. The problem that most of us face is that instead of feeling excited about something we want, and knowing without doubt that we will receive it, we feel doubt; like it won’t come easy and that we have to work hard to get it. By doing this we set up a mental road block and how is the Universe then going to deliver?
Remember, you are opening yourself up to an endless sea of potential, the Universe! And all it wants to do is give you exactly what you are asking for. So take down any road blocks – silence the mind, and trust the Process!
Much Gratitude & Love,
HAPPY NEW YEAR! This year let's Resolve to Reach for more Self-Care tools as a way to practice Self-Love and Renew ourselves.
Here is a quick way you can release some stress, anxiety & energy exhaustion by Practicing Mindfulness in Self-Care with a 15-Second Breathing Meditation that you can do anywhere or anytime.
Breathing to center yourself is one of the key skills to develop a powerful self-care practice that will support you when you feel stressed, anxious, depressed so you can maintain clarity and calm even in challenging conditions. This quick tool will also help you release energy that can get blocked. When energy gets blocked it can cause additional challenges on top of the stress we feel so moving the stress out can aid us in feeling better and experiencing #WholeHealth.
The key to meditation is in the breath—to focus on your breathing and be aware of your breath. Breathe in joy; breathe out stress. In joy, out stress. Allow yourself to feel connected to the world, to the universe, and, most important, to yourself.
Under perceived pressure or stress, we tend to hold our breath, and then we not only don't have the oxygen to our system that we need but also our muscle tension increases and then stress energy can get stuck which can cause us possible health challenges. Focusing on our breath for even 15 seconds a day can repair, replenish and renew! So, go ahead and try this exercise right now for 15-Seconds...
That's it! Here is one more tip: Save the Meditation photo to your phone & add it to your Fav photos. This way you have it as a reference to gently remind yourself of quick self-care tools at your disposable to bring you back to feeling your best again and again!
If you still need a bit of help, please make an appointment and we can work together on clearing your energy field! After all, we all need a helping hand at times! What better way to start but a New Year!
May the New Year bring you love, #wholehealth, joy, and prosperity. If you found this valuable, feel free to share! Much Gratitude & Love,
Home or work place is where you should feel safest and secure to be able to either rest at home or be at your best to do quality work. But, sometimes your home or work space doesn't feel so right. When you aren't feeling so great then you aren't able to perform at your best. So, what can be done?
Did you know that negative or harmful energy can seep into our spaces all the time? If you had a recent break up in a long time relationship, fired from a job, or sick, this situations can cause us to move into heavy emotions like depression, sadness, anxiety or stress. If at work, there is a lot of tension, stress or yelling then this energy can be held in the space long after the argument is over. Emotions have an energy to them. When we are in negative, painful emotions, the energy from one of those can get literally stuck in our home or work space. So, whatever the reason for it entering, regularly clearing negative energy from your space can restore balance and harmony.
If you are wondering how to clear negative energy from your home or work, try those simple cleansing rituals above to ensure there is a free flow of positive energy through your home or work space. Each of these mini rituals can be done individually, but are most powerful if used together to cleanse and protect. Repeat these cleansing rituals if someone is sick, a lot of people have entered your home, you moved into a new home, or you just feel negative emotions or occurrences keep arising. If you are new to clearing and feel like you need support, we can schedule a Reiki Energy Healing to do a deep cleansing on your Home Space or Work Space!
When the home or work space is full of negative energy, it can have a tangible effect on your emotions as well as health. You cannot see energy with the naked eye, but you can certainly feel it. If you are really sensitive then walking into a space filled with negative energy can immediately give you a headache or other sensations. If you haven't cleared depression energy from the home or work space, it can continue to feel heavy which can affect your day to day life. Negative energy can also contribute to lots disturbances in family, friend relationships or between co-workers.
Although negative and positive energies will always exist, for us to learn from, the key is to clear negative energy on a regular basis so we can be lifted from the heaviness. There are many ways to clear negative energy from your space, which can go a long way in restoring balance, harmony and rejuvenation in your life as well as that of other family members and anyone visiting your space at home or at work.
When a client comes to me requesting a Reiki treatment, it can be for a number of reasons. Many as of late are seeking holistic methods to support them with pain, stress and anxiety that they are experiencing in their lives. They are desperate for some kind of relief. The pain, stress and anxiety could be manifesting in physical, emotional, mental or spiritual challenges or a combination, which is causing discomfort. I understand that taking the step to do an alternative route can be a very courageous act for my future client. Let’s face it, we have become a society that has become conditioned to take a pill for any kind of pain including stress and anxiety but seeing a Reiki Energy Healer isn’t exactly being broadcast and endorsed by the drug companies. Although, Reiki Energy Healers are now in over 800 U.S. hospitals to provide complementary support of healing to patients. So, we are progressing in a more collective union on some fronts. But, many of my clients need help now and for some reason pills are no longer answering the call to mute the pain so they are now seeking ways to really heal. They want to unleash themselves from bondage of how pain, stress and anxiety has debilitated their lives.
STRESS AND HOW IT CAN HELP US
Stress has a terrible reputation but not all of it is bad. The “good” kind of stress takes care of us. For instance, the “good kind” can get you across the street quickly when you see an oncoming vehicle, or it motivates you to complete tasks for work or school deadlines. Your body enters self-protection mode and propels you to action: your immune system, heart rate, attention and memory all gear up to do what it needs to do to survive.
WHAT HAPPENS WITH CHRONIC STRESS
However, when stress is chronic (think of pulling all-nighters more than once a week or working on a constant deadline for 3 months straight like in content production where every week a new episode has to be delivered to air otherwise what will fill the programming time?), it can turn into bad stress, which then goes into being in constant "distress". It can impact your whole health in a lot of ways where you literally feel under attack - physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It’s not just a feeling, either. Your body physically and automatically reacts as if it is under a real threat of attack.
When your body is constantly (rather than for just a moment) geared up for self-protection, your systems fatigue and start to decline. Then your immunity will drop (happened to me), inflammation will begin to happen (this isn't comfortable to live with. Again, I know cause it happened to me), attention and memory will start to fail and sleeping problems can arise. Other physical changes can also occur, like shallow breathing, muscles tensing, anxiety and the release of stress hormones cortisol and adrenaline.
It’s easy to feel powerless against this type of stress, pain and anxiety, but research has shown there is something that you can do. The solution, it turns out, is not to escape the pain, stress, anxiety or any of the other negative emotions. Rather, it is to change the way you are reacting to what is happening. Science suggests that there are ways to literally retrain the brain to work to support to heal the physical, mental and emotional pain. That calming the nervous system with a relaxation response can support to heal the stress, tension and pain.
REIKI CAN HELP WITH PAIN, STRESS AND ANXIETY
Reiki is an energy healing technique that uses “hands-on” healing. This technique can assist in relieving or reducing pain and discomfort by balancing the body’s energy centers. It is a natural process that supports relaxation and healing by removing blocks to the flow of energy in your body and facilitates balance and support on all levels.
DOES REIKI REALLY WORK?
I have a deep understanding of pain, stress and anxiety because my chosen career before being a Life Coach and a Reiki Practitioner was an Executive Producer in Reality TV. In Reality TV, we often live on the edge of fast-paced deadlines with a heavy dose of daily stress and anxiety that looms over us. Stress had become an everyday norm for me. When in full production or on a delivery deadline, everyone around you, is also running on stress so it's a constant anxious energy that is floating around and absorbed by all. Working in Reality TV is not for the faint of heart but I did have a lot of amazing experiences and times.
From my unhealthy relationship with work, I ended up with a low immune system from a bout of pneumonia (I was on the a road show that traveled every 3 days for 3 months and we were on and off planes so I ended up getting super sick), inflammation, anxiety, depression, insomnia and all kinds of problems from living a stress-induced life. I didn't want to go on any medication but to find the root of the problem, change my way of living and ultimately find whole health healing. I tried all kinds of things. Eventually, I made my way to more consistent acupuncture appointments, mindfulness meditation classes, Somatic Experiencing Therapy and doing Energy Healing work. They all helped for a short time but I needed to break the mental and emotional patterns that was causing the actual pain. So for me, Reiki Energy Healing, the loss and grief programs, the cognitive behavior courses that I took ended helping me on all these levels. I had to deconstruct my life to reconstruct it in a healthy way. The Reiki helped to alleviate the pain and stress but also supported me in breaking unhealthy patterns by giving me added clarity and motivation. I was addicted to the "go, go and go and the do, do and do." I love creating inspiring shows but with budgets being cut, less staff to support and more expectations for faster with high quality was causing inhumane work conditions of sometimes 18 hour days, 7 days a week for months at a time. I was prizing myself as this road warrior in production life that could deliver all the story goods yet I was creating intense pain for my future. It's just so unhealthy to live this way in a constant and consistent way. The burnt out factor is real.
Breaking up my relationship with constantly being stressed took time and patience. From working on location shows on the road, I had a to-go lifestyle that kept me out of the grocery store for years. Don't get me wrong, I love some hotel living but I was living a very unhealthy adulting life. Once, I got off the stress merry-go-around, I had to start at the beginning and relearn how to take time to do self-care which included grocery shopping and cooking healthy meals to support a healthier lifestyle. Doing Self-Reiki Energy Healing and doing basic things like this eventually broke my habit of everything "To Go it; it literally slowed me down and brought me back into balance. It wasn't easy but took consistent work but I was tired of feeling aweful so what choice did I really have? I was ready for whole health healing. Reiki energy healing ended up being my saving grace but everyone is different so what worked for me may not work for you. But, if you are at the end of your rope, why not give it a go?
THE JOURNEY OF WHOLE HEALTH HEALING
So now when clients choose to do Reiki with me, I understand that they maybe ready to really find healing from the pain, stress, anxiety while also releasing old energy, patterns, and/or beliefs that no longer are serving them and looking for whole health. My client, may be fully aware of this, or just know on a subconscious level that whatever they have been doing has not been working. The idea of experiencing a Reiki session to balance their mind, body and spirit seems to “feel” right so they made an appointment. Whatever the case, I am excited to begin the journey of whole health healing with them.
WHY CAN REIKI WORK?
The reason why Reiki energy healing can be so powerful and effective is because it infuses your body with Universal life force energy. We all have life force energy flowing through us. If one’s “life force energy” is low then we are more likely to get sick or feel stress, and if it is high we are more capable of being happy and healthy. As a practitioner, my responsibility is to simply act as a conduit for Universal life force energy in order to help healing take place, optimally, so that your body can heal itself.
WHAT HAPPENS DURING A REIKI SESSION?
During a Reiki session, you will feel relaxed, and be able to take full, deep and easy breaths. Your muscles start to release tension, your heart rate will become moderate and adrenals will be put at ease. There's a deep sense that everything will be okay and that brings you feeling of peace and a sense of new-found clarity that benefits you upon leaving a Reiki session. Most people benefit from their first Reiki treatment, while others work through deeper issues with additional treatments. Everyone’s needs are different because everyone’s healing is unique to them.
Since Reiki helps us clear energy blocks, it is no surprise that a client feels much more grounded, calm and relaxed after a session. Some even fall asleep during treatments. Whether awake or sleeping, Reiki always works for the client’s highest good for the client’s overall highest health in body, mind and soul.
For those of us who live in the city dwellings, it can be amazing yet it is also full of stimulation! For those of us, who are highly sensitive or empaths, can easily pick up on the energy of others then living in a big city can sometimes overwhelm our sympathetic nervous system. If we don’t understand how to protect and clear ourselves then we can easily get depleted and exhaust our systems.
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE ARE TAXED AND OVERLOADED
What happens when our sympathetic nervous system is taxed and overloaded? As I mentioned, I know firsthand how this feels. It is not fun. Luckily, I had several healers on speed dial that would do 911 energy-healing sessions for me. Our bodies can go into fight-or-flight-or-freeze mode, and our survival instincts can be set into motion. When this happens, our heart rate can increase while maybe experiencing shortness of breath, maybe having difficulty taking in full breaths, our muscles contract. We may break into a sweat, and our adrenal glands get activated which increases our cortisol (the “stress hormone”) to move in and help us handle the stress. Adrenaline is our fight-or-flight-freeze hormone, which also gets activated by our adrenal glands, and helps give us the extra energy we need to deal with the stress situation or run away from it or even freeze from it. Imagine what happens to our bodies when we are in survival mode on a regular basis. Our adrenals get taxed, our system feels depleted, we get fatigued, we may hyper-react in situations or we may even develop physical pains and strains that are not due to physical trauma but emotional and mental health stress challenges that are affecting our physical body. I went through all of that again and again until finally my body delivered a bout of pneumonia to me. That was my wake up call.
ARE YOU HAVING MELTDOWNS BY OVER-REACTING, SLEEPING A LOT OR LIVING LIKE A ZOMBIE?
If you find yourself having meltdowns by over-reacting, sleeping a lot or moving through life like a zombie then it is a clear indication that what you have been dealing with energetically, has now manifested itself into the physical and has zapped you from your life force energy. If you prolong taking care of your emotional and mental health then this can possibly eventually create physical pain in the body.
In addition, when we are in a vulnerable place of being depleted like this we may be more open to absorb energies that do not belong to us. This can leave some of us feeling even more irritated, fatigued, drained, and possibly even frazzled, stressed out and overly anxious.
ARE YOU LIVING WITH BACK PAIN YET YOU CAN'T SEEM TO FIND RELIEF?
One of my clients, when they were stressed at work their back would hurt from all the tension of being anxious about deadlines and disliking the work environment. Everyday the pain increased as the stress heightened. Instead of dealing with healing the stress first, the client had been dealing with trying to heal the back pain by going to see all kinds of specialists with promises of relief but it wasn’t getting better. My client had been living with back pain for 2 years and had tried everything and was desperate enough to give me a call. My client started out with, “I don’t believe in this kind of thing. It’s really weird but I am out of options.” I love working with all walks of life but the skeptics have a special place in my heart. The athlete in me triggers to wanting to bring and deliver the best and optimal results for my client. Sometimes, Reiki energy healing isn’t the right fit but I love a chance to give it a go to see if we can get whole healing for a person living in pain, stress and anxiety.
Once, I started working with this client, the Reiki energy began healing the emotional and mental stress then worked its way to heal the back pain. It took 6 sessions but my client hasn’t had back pain for 2 months and now has some tools in the toolbox to help them through other challenges that may come up in their lives. Along the way, my clients learn meditation, receive information on loss and grief and other tools that could possibly be helpful in this game we call life.
But, if you are also an empath or a highly sensitive person experiencing a stress reaction then you could also be affected even more because you are possibly feeling what is happening around you. So if you don’t understand how to set up healthy boundaries then you can send out your energy without realizing it, which can cause even more depletion. Or you could feel someone else’s anxiety and not understand how to clear the energy from you.
DO YOU FEEL OVERWHELMED, ANXIOUS AND STRESSED?
When I began in working with another one of my clients, the client was often feeling really overwhelmed, anxious and drained. In our first session, the client was working through old patterns of self-sabotage and low self-esteem, which was keeping my client from enjoying a fulfilling love life, from moving forward in career and afraid to stand up for self. My client felt stuck, overwhelmed, anxious and really stressed. Since, my client is an empath or a highly sensitive person, my client was feeling and taking on the energy of everyone around without realizing how to set up healthy boundaries. Because of this my client regularly felt off, depleted of energy on all levels, scattered, and fearful. Often, when an incident happened my client would be mentally and emotionally spinning story after story, trying to explain away what was happening and sometimes going into the blame game of others. The spinning mind and blaming game can be even more taxing, stressful and cause even more pain. When we go into blaming others, we can disconnect ourselves from others and at times, if the hurt and pain aren’t addressed then this can spiral further into the negative emotions that we are already feeling like anger, resentment or frustration. If they continue to fester under the surface without being acknowledged to heal then this can create even more pain, stress and anxiety. Our negative emotions are letting us know what is happening but often we lean away from them because it can be overwhelming or uncomfortable. Look at it as an opportunity for healing.
Since my client had such severe anxiety, it took my client at least 10 minutes to calm down during the first Reiki treatment. My dog happened to be in the first session and was pacing the entire 10 minutes until finally the Reiki released the anxiety energy. My dog has been in sessions before but usually sleeps through the session so this indicated me the level of the stress and anxiety that my client felt. By the end of the first session, I could feel that my client had released some of the old energy through the hands and feet, and the body was infused with Universal life force energy. My client had shifted to a more grounded and relaxed state with an aliveness and the Qi was back in full force. My client said to me, “Wow. I feel so incredibly relaxed and centered. No more spinning mind.”
Sometimes, clients only need one Reiki Energy Healing session but when healing deep layers like this then the healing can take time. After 3 sessions, my client’s wounded child started to heal which allowed my client to start to create awareness around self-sabotaging patterns. My client began to shift them, creating new and more productive habits that included compassion and self-love, starting to trust intuition, and take better care of body, mind and soul. All together it took 3 months of work with 15 Reiki energy sessions and several coaching calls for my client to feel like they found a new lease on life and armed with tools to support themselves for the future. They are still healing other aspects but for now feel healthy enough to stand on their own two feet which is what I want for each of my client’s. Each person’s healing is different and unique to them so some take more or less time. The important thing is to not compare but to understand to focus on your own healing to take care of you.
Being able to hold space for a client’s transformation is really a humbling experience and such an honor. I am awed at having a front row seat in the game of someone else life to see them reconnect to find #wholehealth healing. Truly awe-inspiring.
So, what do you do to help yourself relieve pain, stress and anxiety? Let me know! I am always interested in learning about other techniques to pass on. May we all find our way to Whole Health Healing so we can vibrantly be living each day to its fullest!
Much Gratitude & Love,
Thanksgiving: I am so grateful...
#HolidayGriefHealthTip: On this day of Thanksgiving, I want to give thanks to one of my best friend's from college. Jeremy, died in 2011, after a courageous 2 1/2 year battle with brain cancer. It was devastating to me. Even writing this, I find myself crying. For a moment in time, I wished our paths hadn't crossed because the pain of the loss was so great. I was unprepared for the roller coaster of emotions that grief brought on so I wished to negate all of it so I could have stable ground again. I tried to run but grief catches up to you. Finally, I found my way to loss and grief courses and in grief therapy, to learn to heal the pain of the loss yet keep the love and memories. Now, I see and cherish that Jeremy's friendship was a gift that keeps on giving to me. And now today, I help others move through loss and grief so "I'm so grateful our paths crossed." I know he is smiling as he watches over me because our last conversation as he said goodbye to me he asked me to promise to let the world see a part of me that only he and a few got to see at the time. I know he would get a real kick out of me starting Inspiring You and finally doing real talk. Thank you Jeremy for your gift of friendship. #ForeverGratitude #ForeverThanksful #ForeverBlessed
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Crystals for Beginners
Not sure where to start? Begin your Crystal Healing journey with these Must-Have crystals for beginners. Here are essential crystals NOBODY should be without.
SO MANY CRYSTALS, WHERE DO I START
I work with crystals and often my clients ask me what crystals should they get so I have put together crystals to start with for a Crystal Beginner’s kit.
There are a lot of crystals out there so it can be overwhelming. Perhaps you’re not sure where to even start? Here are some core crystals that are must-have for every collection. And they are affordable, easy to find with all with uniquely different energies.
DIFFERENT TYPES: TUMBLE STONES OR CRYSTAL POINTS
Please note, that all you need is a Tumble Stone. These are available everywhere. These polished crystals are easy to carry on you and place on your body. Some of the crystals on this list such as Quartz and Amethyst are also available as natural, polished or cut Crystal Points. These will cost a bit more. They are worth it later on as you progress and start to learn and sense how the form of a crystal affects its energy.
AGATE: THE STABILIZER
If you’re going to carry one stone around with you wherever you go, let it be agate. As the communication stone, agate will help you open up and make expression easier. Promoting inner stability, security and self-confidence, it’s no wonder agate is highly regarded as a stabilizing and strengthening influence.
Affirmation: My emotional, spiritual, and physical bodies are completely balanced, and working in Harmony for my highest good.
AMETHYST: STONE OF SPIRITUALITY
Super spiritual Amethyst connects you with your spiritual power. Deeply cleansing, this violet crystal purifies negative energies. You can also use Amethyst for protection and developing your natural psychic abilities.
Affirmation: I am connected to the Divine within, safe and secure.
AVENTURINE: GOOD LUCK STONE
Provides balance of the female and male energies. Helps one to move with confidence into new situations such as employment, residence, school, situations such as employment, residence, school, relationships, etc. Enhances creativity and amplifies leadership qualities. Opens the heart to others and increases trust in life. Brings about adventures in love and travel. Stone of “good luck” and is a powerful crystal companion for manifesting wealth & abundance. This stone helps you to shift your thinking about prosperity and about your relationship with money. Has the ability to “expand” anything it is placed upon (money, health, prosperity, etc) Let Green Aventurine gently shift your thinking so that you are better able to welcome abundance into your life. Treats disorders of the longs, heart, adrenal glands and muscular systems. Promotes complete love, forgiveness, release and acceptance.
Affirmation: I welcome wealth and abundance into my life by consciously creating space for thoughts of prosperity.
CARNELIAN: THE CREATIVE INNER CHILD
This stone is quite common and comes in red, orange, pink, and brown. This stone is most excellent for restoring vitality and motivation. It is a high-energy stone and can also assist with stimulating creativity. Traditionally, it was used to protect the deceased on their journey to the afterlife. It can be useful for overcoming abuse and for learning to trust yourself.
Affirmation: I always have access to my inner creative spirit. I am motivated to take action in manifesting my deepest desires. I share my gifts with the world with both ease and grace. I am a force for positive change.
CITRINE: THE PROSPERITY MAGNET
This golden crystal is renowned for its ability to draw prosperity and abundance into your life. Citrine is also good for self-confidence as it opens up the Solar Plexus Chakra. This crystal can also be used to detoxify negative energies from the aura and encourage a more positive state of mind.
Affirmation: I fully embrace my courage, confidence, success and self-worth.
CLEAR QUARTZ: THE MASTER HEALER
An essential crystal healing tool and a good choice for your first crystal. Clear Quartz crystals are probably the most versatile crystals and can be programmed for any purpose. They can direct energies and enhance the energy of other crystals. It is cleansing, helps bring clarity while also keeping your energy and aura bright and strong.
Affirmation: I magnify the energy of my intention in order to manifest dreams.
FLUORITE: THE GENIUS
This stone can be clear or come in a variety of colors, such as blue, green, purple, yellow, or brown. It is a highly protective stone, especially on a psychic level. It can assist with discernment of outside influences that may be at work against you, and can be extremely effective against harm from your computer or any electromagnetic stress. Reveals to one their soul purpose and sacred path. Clears mental fog, confusion and indecisiveness. Emits an energy to produce order and balance, mental, emotional, spiritual and creative systems. Increases ability to concentrate while sustaining good health, strong intellect, and emotional well-being. Known as the ‘genius stone’ for the highest state of mental achievement. Great for the immune system and is often used in association with flues, cold, etc. Teaches us to be at one and in a state of peace. Supports spiritual development. Fluorite can be especially beneficial when learning something new, as it organizes and processes information and increases concentration.
Affirmation: As I grow more connected to my soul, my life’s purpose becomes clearer and clearer.
HEMATITE: THE BOUNCER
This dark grey metallic crystal shields you from psychic attacks and negative energy. Hematite strengthens your aura while defecting harmful energies, pulling them into the Earth for healing and transmutation. Hematite is the bouncer of the crystal world.
Affirmation: I am aware of my emotions, and am easily able to regulate and respond appropriately to them.
JADE: THE DREAM STONE
Jade has been used as a healing stone for nearly 6,000 years, so its powers are legit. Known in ancient cultures as the “dream stone,” jade carries a serene energy — think of it as the calm in the middle of a storm — making it the perfect sidekick for meditation and introspection. Jade gives you the wisdom to be able to see past self-imposed limitations and helps you shed that outdated can't-win-don't-try attitude. While all crystals promote harmony between the mind, body and spirit, the Jade crystal is a superstar in the world of crystal healing thanks to its powerful connection to the heart chakra and its varying degrees of intense, piercing shades of green. When it comes to bringing prosperity and abundance into your life, the Jade crystal stone is the ultimate good luck charm. Incorporate Jade into your daily meditation and have the courage to discover your divine inner truth while discarding any negative patterns holding you back from your full potential.
Affirmation: I have vivid dreams that I remember with clarity and ease.
RAINBOW OBSIDIAN: PSYCHIC VACUUM CLEANER
Rainbow Obsidian is the gemstone that you should have in your possession if you want a life filled with love, light, joy, and positive energy! Rainbow Obsidian is a type of black obsidian that when highly polished and exposed to strong, bright light reveals lustrous layers. The stone is made of volcanic glass, and the layers are caused by the pyroxene’s nanoparticle inclusions. It looks like a black stone at first glance, but you will notice the band of pretty rainbow colors in the stone. Rainbow Obsidian will work to remove your negative thoughts and feelings and replace them with good and empowering ones. Rainbow Obsidian is a highly grounding and protective stone. When you feel like your life is in limbo and you don’t know which direction to take, Rainbow Obsidian will guide you to the right direction. It will make sure that you’re safe and okay going there. It will also help you keep your feet firmly on the ground. Rainbow Obsidian will enhance your clairvoyant abilities, especially when it comes to love and relationships and your efforts for self-improvement. This stone will allow you to see the root cause or the real reason of your emotional problems so that you can resolve them. Rainbow Obsidian will act like a bridge that can bring hope and light to that part of yourself that’s filled with despair and darkness. It will give you something to live for and something to be happy about! It will clear and purify your aura. Rainbow Obsidian is a great cleanser of negativities, which you get from your environment and from your own emotions, like jealousy, resentment, anger, or bitterness. This stone is a powerful negativity shield that will ward off people with negative auras or not so honorable intentions. Rainbow Obsidian will get you started on your emotional healing after suffering a broken heart. It will give you the strength to pick up the pieces and the courage to face a new chapter of your life. The energies of this stone will also help you make progress when it comes to controlling your emotions. They will work to bring hidden truths to the surface. Rainbow Obsidian is also a Stone of Pleasure. It will bring your life gratification and enjoyment in both the little and big ways. It’s a powerful meditation stone that will dissolve your fears, break down barriers, and expand your consciousness.
Affirmation: I am filled with joy and positive energy.
ROSE QUARTZ: THE EARTH MOTHER
Possibly, the ultimate comfort crystal. Rose Quartz is the Mother of all crystals. Gentle and soothing, it helps heal emotional pain. Opening the Heart Chakra it allows you to feel compassion for others and yourself. This is the self-love stone.
Affirmation: I radiate love for myself, others, and the universe in its entirety.
SELENITE: THE GREAT CLEANSER
Selenite Crystals are one of the must have crystals that everyone should have in their home. Selenite crystals help to clear, protect and shield your personal energy body, or the energy of your home. They help to shield you from outside influences—especially negative ones—which is why so many people use a selenite wand when energetically gridding their home. The selenite healing properties remove any negative energy or influences, but also prevent any harmful energies from permeating your body or home. Selenite crystals are the ideal crystal for all kinds of energy clearing—energy cleansing of your body, crystals and home. Selenite is often pure white or slightly clear, but it can also be blue, brown, or green. It is quite easy to find. Selenite is an excellent stone for opening the third eye and crown chakras and can help you to connect to angelic consciousness and higher guidance through meditation. It has been said that each person holding a piece of this pure-vibration stone can enhance their telepathic capabilities. The selenite healing properties make it one of the very few minerals that has the ability to quickly unblock any stuck or stagnant energy to ensure a smooth flow of positive energy through your body or also a space. They are one of the most powerful crystals for energy clearing and energy cleansing, making them an essential tool for removing negative energy. Place a Selenite tower in each of your rooms at home to keep the energy of your house cleared. Selenite crystals are also the ideal energy tools for healing. Selenite healing brings purifying white light into your body to help heal your aura and balance your chakras. Try placing your selenite crystals directly on your body, on areas that you want to focus your healing on, to bring focused healing energy to that area. It can also be used to help battle insomnia. Place selenite under your pillow at night to help you get a restful night's sleep. Many people are beginnings to incorporate selenite crystals into holistic medicine treatments for cancer and tumor reduction. Some people believe that selenite's natural ability to cleanse, purify and create a smooth energy flow throughout your entire energy system may help to restructure and regenerate cells.
Affirmation: My energy is clear and pure.
SMOKY QUARTZ: THE NEGATIVITY BUSTER
This form of Quartz crystal can be brown to smoky black in color. Smoky Quartz absorbs negative energies from around you or those created by our own negative thought patterns. A major protection stone, helping one to feel safe and secure. Tranforms negative emotions and patterns. Facilitates the desire to set aside the thinking mind and clear mental channels. Balances the Yin-Yang energies. Excellent grounding stone, creating acceptance of the body and Earth plane. Heals fear, depression, addictions, and obsessions.
Affirmation: I trust that I am eternally safe and protected by the Universe.
TIGER’S EYE: THE CONFIDENCE BUILDER
This banded golden brown stone carries a more masculine energy. An ideal crystal for helping build confidence and self-belief. You can also use Tiger’s Eye for protection. This golden stone connects us with the Earth, making it a good choice for grounding yourself. Makes one invisible from negative energy sources. Protects one’s auric field. Promotes courage and self-confidence, especially during time of transition or change. Protects travelers from accidents. Provides balance of Yin-Yang Energies.
Affirmation: I am able to adapt to the changes in my life with confidence.
TURQUOISE: MENTAL BOOSTER
As the name suggests, this stone is turquoise, of varying shades of blue and green, and it is easily found. Promotes spiritual attunement, physical awareness and enhances communication while developing inner strength. A stone of grounding and calming. A healer of the spirit, providing a soothing energy and bringing peace of mind. Turquoise is great for your mental well-being and dissolves any thoughts of self-hatred or self sabotage. Heals physical pain, especially stomach issues. Excellent detoxifying agent.
Affirmation: I express myself in a positive and elegant way that others are able to understand.
As you can see, each of these stones has many different properties, and the above list barely scratches the surface of what each stone has to offer, or the many other stones available. Don’t worry about going out and getting them all — they will come into your life as they are needed. When buying them from a store, it is important to pick the ones that call to you.
To cleanse your crystals, you can place them outdoors under a full moon, or rinse them with rosewater with the intention to clear their accumulated energies and revitalize them. If you have a selenite crystal, placing the other crystals near this one and the selenite will cleanse them.
Crystals can be worn as jewelry, carried in your pocket, or left on a nightstand, under your pillow or at work at your desk or wherever you spend a lot of time at. They are great to use during meditation, and some can help to amplify your prayers.
If you are curious, but still skeptical, I suggest just buying one and seeing if anything changes in your life or if you feel any differently. The worst that can happen is nothing yet the best that can happen is that something will indeed change!
Much Gratitude & Love,
“I have had migraines for over 15 years.” “I have had this pain in the neck for 20 years.” “I can’t remember ever not feeling some kind of pain in the back.” “I have this deep-seated feeling of hurt since I was a kid.” “I feel heart-broken and depressed from my divorce and I don’t know what to do about it. The feelings are all-consuming and eating me alive.” “I miss my mom. She died 5 years ago and I don’t know how to move on.” “Every time I am angry my sciatica pain kicks in.” Any of these resonate with you?
It’s unbelievable how much emotional and physical pain people are in. Why are so many of us living with daily pain? Let's use sciatica as a way to examine how emotional and physical pain can possibly be interconnected. Remember, I am not a medical professional but I am an Intuitive Empath and Reiki Energy Healer that feels things in an unexplained way that science is slowly catching up to. ;)
In the last couple of months, I have worked with many clients who have sciatica pain. Since I am an Intuitive Empath, I can’t believe how incredibly uncomfortable and truly excruciating this pain feels as it shoots down one or both of the legs. As I am working on a client, I am, often, shocked that this has been almost a daily norm. Many are losing quality of life while being stuck at home, unable to endure the pain to make it outside. So, let’s put our investigator hat to take a whole health look at what possibly could be going on!
What is Sciatic nerve?
The sciatic nerve is the largest single nerve in the body; it runs from each side of the lower spine through deep in the buttock into the back of the thigh and all the way down to the foot. It serves a vital role in connecting the spinal cord with the leg and foot muscles.
What does Sciatica pain feel like?
Pain radiating along the sciatic nerve, which runs down one or both legs from lower back is referred as sciatica.
Medical cause of Sciatica pain
Sciatica is commonly caused by some type of compression of the spinal nerve in the lower back. There can be many reasons for this compression. According to “What you need to know about Sciatica” by Stephen H. Hoshschuler, MD, “Sciatica (pronounced sigh-at-eh-kah) is not a medical diagnosis in and of itself—it is a symptom of an underlying medical condition. Common lower back problems that can cause sciatica symptoms include a lumbar herniated disc, degenerative disc disease, spondylolisthesis, or spinal stenosis.”
Common symptoms of Sciatica
Sciatica symptoms occur when the large sciatic nerve is irritated or compressed at or near its point of origin. Seeing a doctor for sciatica pain is advised, both for learning how to reduce the pain and to check for the possibility of a serious medical issue.”
Making sense of it all: I noticed many of my clients would say I felt so angry/disappointed/frustrated/resentful at so and so then my sciatica started hurting. There seemed to be a situation that triggered a negative feeling, which then would result in this agonizing pain. “Nerves have to do with communication and sensitivity according to “Your Body Speaks your Mind” by Deb Shapiro. Sciatica implies that there are emotional issues affecting the back and legs, and that these are deep, inner issues. These may be issues to do with being able to stand up for yourself. Perhaps something is happening that you cannot take anymore, and it is making you want to go in a different direction. Or perhaps you desperately need more support and cannot cope with everything on your own any longer. Sciatica may indicate doubt or fear about where you are going and your ability to cope with what lies ahead. Are you concerned about where you are going and what is going to happen? What inner emotional pain are you sitting on or holding back? Is someone or something restricting your freedom to move? Are there financial or emotional issues putting pressure on you or weighing you down.”
Healing Happens with your Help: Carol Ritberger’s “Healing Happens with your Help” explains, “The metaphor of sciatica is being frozen with fear around manifestation. Struggles with time and money and a fear around survival are significant contributors. A person is usually overburden and feels like they’re carrying the weight of the world on their back and have nobody to help carry the load or to support them. There is deep-seated resentment, survival anxiety, loss of direction, and avoidance to do what they know they need to do. A person is hypercritical, overburdened, overwhelmed, overextended, and overly independent. They don’t ask for help or want help, but get disgusted when no one helps them. Another metaphor for sciatica is a dog chasing its tail, visualize it going in circles and not sure which way to go.”
Childhood Trauma: In further researching, I read Ravenstarshealingroom’s “The Metaphysics of Sciatic and Perimpheral Pain” and discovered much of what was shared was similar to what I was seeing and hearing with my clients. Her blog is definitely worth checking out! Here is one of the many excerpts from the blog that I ended up utilizing:
“If you grew up in an emotionally tense environment, areas of the body that keep your feet firmly planted on the earth will be affected. These can show up as problems with the lower back (lumbar, sacral), pelvis, rectum, hips, legs and feet. The hips and buttocks are the foundation of our physical being: the movement of the hip joint is crucial to our survival – whether in running away from danger, kicking an attacker, or moving in the sexual/reproductive act. Sciatic sufferers can display a lot of rage and anger when they are overly sensitized from being judged critically, verbally abused or punished. In fact they may often punish themselves because they’re afraid of trusting their own judgment. When the hips are out of alignment so too are the liver and gallbladder meridians …these two meridians help us to move forward to begin motioning towards something. Unbalanced, they can metaphysically be caused by feeling angry/hurt inside, feeling used, unappreciated, let down, alienated. Who or what are you carrying on your hips? What are you taking responsibility for? Who is it you are supporting when you should be supporting yourself? Are you feeling insecure about something? Do you feel controlled by someone?
(Other people’s thought forms, projections and hooks can be attached to highly charged areas in your energy field and influence your actions and perceptions. Highly charged areas in your field are where you’ve not integrated emotional issues, like, poor self-esteem, pain, fear, anger and so forth…any part of you that works against your higher path and purpose can become a receptor site for lower energy.)
What we don’t often recognize when our problems stress us out is that, we are locked in old patterns—old beliefs, old ways of thinking and doing things, old wounds, old memories—that unconsciously undermine our conscious desire to be free of suffering. We are at the mercy of our past history. These deeply imprinted patterns and beliefs slow down our every move. We feel off balance, reacting out of habit and fear, and rarely in control.
Fears create a lack of confidence and when we lack confidence we are affected by other people’s moods... kind of like a leaf flying helplessly in a storm. When we have a low self-worth it prevents us from using our imagination and to find a creative outlet. Fear also causes us to hold back and repress our emotions, which can cause problems in relationships.
Past wounds that don’t heal, deplete and waste our energy. We just keep going around in circles with no escape in sight. Always with the same message, always eliciting the same reaction, every waiting to spring out at us. These reactions are an intrinsic part of your survival mechanism…your physical emergency response. If you were severely traumatized in the past, you may overreact or under-react to situations and relationships for much of your life. It’s possible your mother may have been deeply troubled, psychologically or perhaps physically unavailable; whatever your situation, her negative responses to your needs and feelings, led you to believe that you had no right to have feelings. The hurt or trauma you experienced then may have resulted in a deep-seated decision never to make yourself vulnerable again. “I’d rather die than need you.” Often sciatica signifies an inability to bond with the mother, though a deep inner bond with her exists. This bond exists because you need to hold on to her physically, mainly due to not being nurtured and loved by her. If your mother didn’t respond to your nonverbal (and verbal) signals, you learned to distrust closeness to other people and failed to develop a healthy degree of trust. Trust is about moving beyond your comfort zone. With sciatica we are afraid of diving into our feelings and needs because we associate them with attachment to home and family” shares Janice from Ravenstarshealingroom.
How emotions can impact our physical: From what I have seen from my own clients then in researching it seems there is a commonality that many sciatic sufferers may not understand how to show their true feelings to others. (Remember, there could very well be exceptions! And I am not a therapist but I do feel feelings so there is that!)
Some of my clients seem to have tried to express themselves time and time again when they were young and as well as an adult but were perhaps quieted or misunderstood. Being silenced connects to hurt which then can lead into disappointment or anger or…Yet, no matter how loving or caring their parents were or loved one’s are now, they may not have met or are meeting all of their emotional needs.
As Ravenstarshealingroom continues with, “Sometimes our parents (and family, friends, co-workers, managers, etc.) didn’t understand what we needed because our own needs were so different from what they needed when they were children. Sometimes, our parents (family, friends, co-workers, managers, etc.) are unable to give us what we need because they didn’t get their own needs met. When we aren’t able to express our true feelings or fears, we don’t feel safe or secure. When we don’t feel safe, we either withdraw or get angry. Either way, our anxieties grow and our self-expression shrinks because we can only access behaviors that are allowed to be seen. We’re unable to be who we are, so we become a characterization of what we think we should be. If you had to compensate your feelings/emotions to meet the expectations of your parents, teachers or friends, etc.… your feelings/emotions might have become sealed in your sacral/hip area for a long time.
Many sciatic sufferers see themselves as chameleons, adapting to the likes and dislikes of the people around them. Most of them fear that their needs and feelings will upset or anger other people. Being uncomfortable with their own feelings, they are also unable to tolerate anybody else’s feelings. As you become familiar with your own needs and feelings, you will learn how to be comfortable with other people’s feelings as well.
As long as you are focused on outer solutions—you won’t be able to address the inner pain that drives you away from yourself in the first place. The process of recovery leads you inward to learn who you really are and what you really need.
If you do not care for yourself or listen to and trust your own feelings, you can easily become dependent on others. If you do not trust the messages of your body due to a past traumatic experience, your body becomes numb and shuts off. A wounded heart has a limited capacity to trust and be open to infinite possibilities. Emotional numbness can create codependent relationships; dependency occurs when we lack self-esteem or harbor a poor body image. Sciatic pain can either make you reclusive, shy and retreating in nature OR it can cause you to become aggressive, overbearing and deceitful. When you get angry and really ticked off, you attract people who want to talk about the same problems you’re going through. This is where you have to pay attention to the conversations you’re having every week with others. How do they embrace your own issues? Were you able to see solutions to your/their problem. These are also your issues and we all have to embrace our stuff.”
Your Body is Telling You: Love Yourself: In Lise Bourbeau’s Your Body is Telling You: Love Yourself she shares, “Sciatica may be experienced if you are insecure about your future or have an unconscious fear of lack of material abundance. I emphasize unconscious because, in my observation, sciatica is especially common in those who are materially and financially comfortable, but would have a difficult time if that were lost. ….Sciatica. therefore, is located in the body at the level of having. You are probably not consciously aware of your fear of lack because you don’t think of yourself as attached to materials things……attachment makes you feel guilty because you believe it is not spiritual…..guilt however, impedes your progress and prevent you from taking a leap…If you are experiencing sciatica, your body is giving you a signal your way of thinking is a pain and is causing you distress; it’s really getting on your nerves. Pain always indicates guilt; therefore what are you punishing yourself for? What do you feel guilty about?”
Heal Your Body, Heal Your Life: One of my favorite books is by Louise Hay “Heal Your Body” which describes sciatica as “being hypocritical”, not being straight with yourself. A sciatic issue also relates to ‘fear of money’ and the future”. So, if you suffer from lower-back or hip pain, it’s time to look at your relationship both with yourself and with the people around you. Honestly assess your life and make some changes. Do you get support from your family that you’re not getting elsewhere? Notice where you are getting support and openly acknowledge it and have gratitude for it. Do you tend to always blame others when things go wrong? Try to see the whole picture and see whether you are doing something that might be contributing to the problem. Do you feel out of control when it comes to finances? Look closely at any financial downfall and try to pinpoint where things shifted from good to bad.”
Energy Healing Evaluation and Process Explained: Let’s first look at the Root Chakra. From the “The Metaphysics of Sciatic and Peripheral Pain”, “The root chakra’s is linked with the earth’s energy. Its main function is to build the basic foundation of our identities; it’s here, we build a place called home—it’s a sense of belonging—a vital system that cannot be constructed without an identity. The root chakra is largely driven through our instincts and premonitions, which help to build our personal and physical identities, which are built from our conditions, upbringings and education. “The Sanskrit name for this chakra is Muladhara, which means, “root support.” From the “Wheels of Life” by Anodea Judith, “The sciatic nerve, traveling from the sacral plexus down through the legs, is the largest peripheral nerve in the body (about as thick as your thumb) and functions much like a root for the nervous system. The feet and legs, which provide locomotion, enable us to perform tasks necessary to obtain life sustenance from the earth and its environment. Our legs touch the ground below us and connect our nervous system with the earth, our first chakra development. We respond then, kinesthetically to gravity—the basic underlying force of the earth—constantly pulling us downward. This force keeps us connected to our planet, rooted in material existence.”
“Early in the healing process, many people have no idea who they really are and what their truth is. Not only have they used addictions and other distractions to hide their true feelings; they have also spent much of their time focusing on other people’s feelings and needs. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with caring or being concerned about other people. However, if it is at your own expense, it’s not only unhealthy for you, it’s unhealthy for the person for whom you are sacrificing yourself.”
This is important information for a few clients of mine: “You are not responsible for everyone you care about. If your life is overwhelmed by responsibility, then it’s time to stop doing everything and let someone else share the load”, says Linda Joyce. While Ravenstarshealingroom shares, “Some have said that it’s almost like the bottom has to drop out of your world before you can grasp the significance of this stuff. Listen to your sciatic nerve, what is it trying to tell you? If old wounds surface, it means that the situation you are in now is draining your energy, and will continue to drain your energy until you acknowledge the emotional triggers. That’s really what your sciatic pain wants, to be acknowledged.”
More on how Energy Works: “The sacral or 2nd chakra is connected to the sense of taste, the element of water and the lymphatic glands. It’s affected by our emotional mood swings and what we love in the sense of our “tastes for life” (fashions, money, relationships, creativity, sexuality). The 2nd chakra interacts well with the 1st. The 1st chakra connects us with the element of earth, while the 2nd connects us to the element of water. Earth offers stability; water brings a sense of movement. Water is also linked to the moon; it connects with time, and tide, fertility, menstruation and ovulation in women and the production of semen in men. Sexuality (sacral chakra) holds our greatest pain and denial. Every shred of unfinished business and all our emotional issues will keep reappearing until we get in touch with how our body is feeling. When we open the floodgate of our emotions they will turn our lives upside down. Anything not in harmony with our Self will come up to be processed and healed. All your fixed thoughts and ideas will come loose and you will feel as if you are shifting through time. It will feel as if you are being crushed as your past and future collide. However, this will also free up an enormous amount of energy opening you to your creative juices and your joy.
Visualize a water fall over a rocky terrain, imagine looking closer and see how the water has slowly created (carved) the bed-rock of the earth into an expression of beauty; it looks alive, full of the “life-force” created from the power of fluid and motion. Without water the earth would “dry up” become sluggish, infertile, and lifeless; our bodies need water to stay healthy, young and productive. Therefore water needs the earth to hold and “restrain” its emotional desire to “shape and control the world around it”. This means that the 2nd chakra relates to issues of power in the outer world and your need to control, people, events, and the way things happen.
In relationships, we look for someone who will validate, protect and connect with us on an intimate level. But if we suffer from low self-worth and unable to stand up for our rights, we’ll keep finding relationships that constantly reopen our wounds or traumas.”
Case Study from Reiki teacher and alternative healer, Janice from her Ravenstarshealingroom blog: “Physically, sciatica means pain from a compressed or pinched sciatic nerve which can be felt in the back of the thigh, down the back of the leg, on the outside of the calf, on the side of the foot and in the heel.
Wayne contacted her, via email, because he had been suffering on and off from sciatic pain in his left leg (deep buttock/hip socket) area and lumbar for about 5 years. Each time the sciatica returned, he tried different forms of physical therapy, chiropractor, therapeutic massage, daily stretching as well as anti-inflammatories (ibuprofen and naproxen sodium) all to no avail. Two weeks ago, he again developed sciatica in his left leg that was so intense he couldn’t bend over to put on his socks or shoes and he couldn’t walk because of the pain. An MRI revealed he had bone spurs; two intervertebral disks that had herniated and the doctor scheduled him for surgery in May. Wayne didn’t want surgery.
Wayne gave her a quick run-down of his history and after sending emails back and forth, we scheduled a time that both of us could connect energetically at a distance. Healing this way, allows a client to actively participate in the healing, either by relaxing, or meditating. The vibration of a client’s name creates a spiritual link and as they relax, she scanned, listen and make notes of the symbols and messages the client’s body/mind shares with me… distant Reiki is then gently sent to areas (chakra/endocrine glands/organs) where the body needs it most.
The Healing: “The hypothalamus in our brains sees everything as world war III so when a memory (young or old) is remembered, our bodies respond to the chemicals. So the body is the one that suffers the pain of being fired, of losing a promotion or being rejected/abandoned by a parent. The body doesn’t have a clue if the event is currently happening or happened fifteen years ago. Just thinking about previous emotional hurts can cause the body to respond as if those hurts are occurring in that every moment. Remembering emotional hurts causing the muscles to tighten and clamp down upon the adrenals, causing a huge output of adrenaline/cortisone as well as the sexual hormones. With too much adrenaline, the feeling one gets is of ‘being wired’, electrified—adrenaline interferes with the brains neurotransmitters, leaving you feeling scattered, irritable, confused—physically, the body’s getting ready to fight/flight or freeze.
This is what was happening to Wayne. Fear, anxiety and mistrust was having such an adverse effect on his insides, that his aura and body was instinctively pulling in to protect itself, causing his lower back muscles to contract and clamp down on his sciatic nerve, causing reduced mobility and depriving his cells of oxygen and life-force energies. When this happens toxic thoughts and emotions become trapped inside the body, creating a form of ‘muscular armor’ in an attempt to feel safer and less vulnerable, but it takes its toll on the adrenals and the body’s natural fluidness. When this happens the fascia tightens and becomes brittle. Wanting to know why Wayne suffered sciatic pain to his left hip and leg, I posed this question to his mind/body/soul. The left side of the body is linked with the feminine aspect, which is about receiving, being and the inner self. When the left side is unbalanced or blocked it creates a feeling of unrest or a disconnection from the truth about ourselves. Wayne had literally cut himself off from his life-force and the left side of his body was telling him to stop denying this feelings.
When we disconnect from the truth of ourselves, we are cutting ourselves off from our very life force, and we are in fact weaker, less … But in the beginning, it is simply the inner self saying, “No more denying these feelings!
Wayne’s mind/body spoke of feeling dissatisfied and confused about the self. Filled with self-doubt he always feels he has to be more. With the right side having to compensate for the left, there are delusions about oneself and one’s motives. This can cause a person to cling to a fantasy about his or her own identity. After the healing she asked, “Wayne if his father was estranged from him in some way. He told her his father was seldom at home due to his work in the mines, so essentially Wayne felt abandoned by his dad. The lack of a father, or authority figure, creates poor boundaries in a child and lack of what is normal in the reality of his life. The lack of life-rules can be very disorienting for a child, who will take great pains to hide the real self.
Hurting deep inside becomes a stumbling block, you can’t move forward and you can’t move backward. You hang on to what is ‘familiar’ refusing to let go of a stagnating job, a person or situation that no longer fulfills you. But you stay because it offers you some sort of security from the constantly changing world. Childhood traumatic events, which are so common, at any young age—jeopardize trust and faith—causing the exuberant wonder of a child’s spirit to falter.
When Wayne and I first made contact and I asked him to write about his life. He had written a wonderful story, painting a picture that his life was great…except he forgot to mention his father was absent for most of his childhood, that his parents divorced when he was seven and he suffered the loss of his brother five years ago from an accidental drowning. Wayne realized his life was incomplete and that he was seeing only one side of his life; this was why his sciatica kept coming back. He was determined to explore the reality of his life and get to know his inner self.
Healing Takes Work: “To heal, we have to make a choice to willingly explore the pain, to put forth the effort to grow or we’ll stay a victim of the pain. But once, we begin to understand it, we can start to grow from it and begin making new choices for ourselves…better choices…choices that allow us to heal. As we push through the pain and really examine it, we can ask ourselves, “Why is my sciatica resurfacing again and again”? “What thoughts are keeping my sciatica alive? Why did I choose to experience this”? Relax your body/mind and allow your soul/spirit a chance to speak.”
Heal Your Story, Heal Your Life: I wish I could say all that y’all have to do is to figure out “why do I choose to experience this?” then the sciatica pain is gone but honestly this kind of work is intertwined with deep emotional feelings that have been stuck for many, many years or even from past lives so the reality is that you will probably need to learn the lesson more than once before the pain finally is healed. Healing intense pain isn’t always quick like going through a fast-food drive-through. I know we all want insta-heal but sometimes it takes patience, determination and courage to undertake the process of healing. I do leave room for the miracle of God that it can happen with one Reiki session. And Reiki Energy Healing definitely helps to heal the mental, emotional, spiritual and physical but healing sometimes takes the work of a Reiki Energy Healer, the client to take self-responsibility along with the guidance from the Divine Team or energy life-force. I created a 3-month coaching program called “Heal Your Story, Heal Your Life” because along with the Reiki, I saw that my clients needed coaching and encouragement along with weekly Reiki treatments to heal the deep wounds that were causing the pain. In being an Intuitive Empath and Reiki Energy Healer, I, often, get information that could be subconsciously hiding from my client that is brought to light to heal. It’s an amazing process of healing but it does take a willingness to roll up your sleeves to want to have whole health healing.
Research & Sharing: I chose to utilize much of Janice from Ravenstarshealingroom’s well-researched blog “The Metaphysics of Sciatic and Perimpheral Pain” and her testimonial of a case study for I have experienced much of what she speaks of with my own clients yet I feel strongly that it’s important to share the abundance of healing that is happening around the world. It’s not only in my experience with my own clients but with other Reiki Energy Healers as well. Special Thank you to Janice from Ravenstarshealingroom.com. I tried to find your contact info but alas couldn’t find it your your blog. Thank you Janice for the work that you do as a healer. You are truly a gift to the world. Please everyone check out her work!
Much Gratitude and Love,
Is it really that easy?
I saw this posted on one of the many Facebook groups that I belong to and I had to take a pause. So, if I merely say to myself, "Let go of guilt." Then poof, it's gone? Is it really that easy? Seriously, then why are so many people being called to be Therapists, Reiki Energy Healers, Meditation Teachers, Ministers, Acupuncturists, Hypnotherapists, Coaches or any other kind of professional out there that does service to others?
Let's take me for an example. I had built a career and a life while also making a lot more money working in TV but I was called to be in service of others by the powers that be. It was time to utilize my services that I had been training for. Insert rightly cliched saying, "Easier said or asked in my case than done." Trust me, I had to be asked more than once by the G-O-D to career transition. I am human so I did my best to ignore and look the other way until finally I surrendered and let go.
While learning how to "let go", I found myself in quite a few "situations" where I felt at times uncomfortable or made me feel rather vulnerable but I would focus on two phrases by spiritual teacher Florence Scovel Shinn, "I look at wonder at that which is before me" and also "No man is your enemy, no man is your friend, every man is your teacher." Yet with all my "spiritual training and abilities", it wasn't a pretty process of letting go of my ego mind-conditioning, limited thinking, beliefs that I didn't even know I had until they surfaced but with lot of self-help and spiritual books, coaches, healers and teachers I found my way through the dark to find the light again and again. If only, I could have been like the caterpillar hidden in the cocoon before breaking out into the butterfly. But, I am human.
So, I went through a long process of learning to let go of fear to then letting go of judgement to then letting go of comparing to then letting go of competing to then letting go of anger to then letting go of regrets to then letting go of worrying to then letting go of blame to finally letting go of guilt. And guilt for me took awhile. I had to go through each one until final I found acceptance. It wasn't an easy process. It took years. I worked with many teachers while also being guided by the God squad. I had to heal what was keeping me hidden. For some, maybe it is, as simple as saying, "I let go of Guilt!" But for me, it wasn't. As an evolving human who seems to have an old soul on the spiritual path, there was a lot of layers from various past lives which needed to be addressed in different ways. Many of my lessons, I painfully went around the mulberry bush again and again until finally I found this nirvana of healing from all of my effort. That is when I would find the belly-laughter and feel so light, connected and heart-happy. Like a shiny new me would show up.
I have found in my own healing and in witnessing the healing of my clients that "letting go" of deep-seated emotional beliefs, mental thought patterns, unhealthy fear habits take time, patience, dedication, care, and commitment to your own self-love for real whole health healing. I feel like we have allowed this new thought movement to often simplify what is actually more layered messy road of healing. So, I want us to start owning it.
I am all for positive, encouraging tips to be more Zen-like yet it doesn't feel authentic to my journey or so many of my clients that I work with now. I can't imagine telling one of my clients who is in the midst of a having a moment to simply say "Let go of Guilt." First of all, when you are in the middle of an emotional storm, most of the time, we can't even recognize, acknowledge or accept that it could be guilt/fear/anger/anxiety/judgements/comparing/competing that triggered because we are too caught up in the surface story. The swirl of the story can be seductive and consuming. We can easily be caught in fear where we do the He/SheSaid/Did/PointingFingers and blaming scenarios yet merely gossiping about what happened instead of taking any healthy action to resolve and heal. Most us have done this routine. It's part of being human. We are Divinely Perfect in God's eyes but we aren't perfect. We are here to learn, grow and heal. So, once the initial emotional tsunami has passed then we need investigate what could be underneath and attached to find clarity and the real healing.
As Pierre Teilhard de Chardin said, "We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience." The human experience can be complicated. There is much we don't understand about the spiritual experience in our limited reasoning human minds. So, why are we seemingly trying to simplify the healing of our evolving soul and humanity with a "if we only let go of...." then we will be in a space of Zen? Doesn't that in some ways take away the very purpose we maybe here?
Plus, as former cheerleader and now a life, career and healing coach, I want to keep encouraging my clients to find their whole health healing so they can live the life they really imagined.
Much Gratitude and Love,