I saw this posted on one of the many Facebook groups that I belong to and I had to take a pause. So, if I merely say to myself, "Let go of guilt." Then poof, it's gone? Is it really that easy? Seriously, then why are so many people being called to be Therapists, Reiki Energy Healers, Meditation Teachers, Ministers, Acupuncturists, Hypnotherapists, Coaches or any other kind of professional out there that does service to others?
Let's take me for an example. I had built a career and a life while also making a lot more money working in TV but I was called to be in service of others by the powers that be. It was time to utilize my services that I had been training for. Insert rightly cliched saying, "Easier said or asked in my case than done." Trust me, I had to be asked more than once by the G-O-D to career transition. I am human so I did my best to ignore and look the other way until finally I surrendered and let go.
While learning how to "let go", I found myself in quite a few "situations" where I felt at times uncomfortable or made me feel rather vulnerable but I would focus on two phrases by spiritual teacher Florence Scovel Shinn, "I look at wonder at that which is before me" and also "No man is your enemy, no man is your friend, every man is your teacher." Yet with all my "spiritual training and abilities", it wasn't a pretty process of letting go of my ego mind-conditioning, limited thinking, beliefs that I didn't even know I had until they surfaced but with lot of self-help and spiritual books, coaches, healers and teachers I found my way through the dark to find the light again and again. If only, I could have been like the caterpillar hidden in the cocoon before breaking out into the butterfly. But, I am human.
So, I went through a long process of learning to let go of fear to then letting go of judgement to then letting go of comparing to then letting go of competing to then letting go of anger to then letting go of regrets to then letting go of worrying to then letting go of blame to finally letting go of guilt. And guilt for me took awhile. I had to go through each one until final I found acceptance. It wasn't an easy process. It took years. I worked with many teachers while also being guided by the God squad. I had to heal what was keeping me hidden. For some, maybe it is, as simple as saying, "I let go of Guilt!" But for me, it wasn't. As an evolving human who seems to have an old soul on the spiritual path, there was a lot of layers from various past lives which needed to be addressed in different ways. Many of my lessons, I painfully went around the mulberry bush again and again until finally I found this nirvana of healing from all of my effort. That is when I would find the belly-laughter and feel so light, connected and heart-happy. Like a shiny new me would show up.
I have found in my own healing and in witnessing the healing of my clients that "letting go" of deep-seated emotional beliefs, mental thought patterns, unhealthy fear habits take time, patience, dedication, care, and commitment to your own self-love for real whole health healing. I feel like we have allowed this new thought movement to often simplify what is actually more layered messy road of healing. So, I want us to start owning it.
I am all for positive, encouraging tips to be more Zen-like yet it doesn't feel authentic to my journey or so many of my clients that I work with now. I can't imagine telling one of my clients who is in the midst of a having a moment to simply say "Let go of Guilt." First of all, when you are in the middle of an emotional storm, most of the time, we can't even recognize, acknowledge or accept that it could be guilt/fear/anger/anxiety/judgements/comparing/competing that triggered because we are too caught up in the surface story. The swirl of the story can be seductive and consuming. We can easily be caught in fear where we do the He/SheSaid/Did/PointingFingers and blaming scenarios yet merely gossiping about what happened instead of taking any healthy action to resolve and heal. Most us have done this routine. It's part of being human. We are Divinely Perfect in God's eyes but we aren't perfect. We are here to learn, grow and heal. So, once the initial emotional tsunami has passed then we need investigate what could be underneath and attached to find clarity and the real healing.
As Pierre Teilhard de Chardin said, "We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience." The human experience can be complicated. There is much we don't understand about the spiritual experience in our limited reasoning human minds. So, why are we seemingly trying to simplify the healing of our evolving soul and humanity with a "if we only let go of...." then we will be in a space of Zen? Doesn't that in some ways take away the very purpose we maybe here?
Plus, as former cheerleader and now a life, career and healing coach, I want to keep encouraging my clients to find their whole health healing so they can live the life they really imagined.
Much Gratitude and Love,